I’m noticing the pain of what he said to me.
A desire to correct his perspectives and make more holistic his harmful intentions.
I realize that continuing to attempt to correct him and get him to understand, is keeping me stuck in the distortion of a relationship that I desire to shift out of.
Needing his understanding and apology is keeping me stuck.
Giving myself the understanding and apology and disengaging him entirely is setting me free.
I recognize when a relationship is incapable of being on the same page with me, of communicating in a manner that feels good and true, and I let go of forcing otherwise. I rest in the truth for myself and that is more than enough.
I have a no nonsense policy for quality relating, including the ability to listen and take in my perspectives without defense. To speak from presence and holism…basically all the communication skills we are practicing in NLS. It is raising the bar for my relationships, and therefore I don’t have to engage regularly, and definitely not intimately, with people that don’t meet this bar.