I’ve been hit pretty hard with backlash of all the contracting thoughts and perspectives in regards to losing a friendship. And it has occurred to me that what if they were no more than signals to stop touching the hot stove? That the remedy is to focus elsehow and elsewhere rather than stew in the feeling and story of painful perspectives (the hot stove)? Stop touching the stove.
That karma is my habit of perspective. So the work is to form new harmonious perspectives, disengage the disharmonious ones, and focus forward in progressive ways.
It is true I need to feel those painful perspectives.. Maybe… But only for the sake of concluding I don’t want them… Including the friend who keeps forcing them on me. And that I am done with him for my own sake of wellbeing since he harbors so many disharmonious perspectives.
But going forward I think I can get off the painful karma train sooner, steer my focus with will power, and not have to dive in to see how it feels. I can recognize more subtle indications and steer away. I know where the train leads and I don’t want to go there.